Updated: Jul 18
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Dear friend, in past few years people have contacted me to help them cope up with depression due to marriage pressure. Both girls and boys feel this pressure. Parents also take pressure from society and this pressure is then shifted to children.
Marriage is one of the oldest institutions of human society. It has helped in maintaining social order. Human beings are used to living in a collective. Institutions are like the skeleton of the human collective body that strengthens the structure.
The institution of marriage has served a valuable purpose to bring different groups together for growth and development of human society. However, it has also subjugated the individual into a rigid, socio-religious culture having rigid norms.
The institution of marriage has not changed basically after thousands of years, therefore those individuals wanting a different life face a lot of pressure from family and society. This pressure often results in depression.
3 ways to overcome depression due to marriage pressure
Do not worry, there is a solution for depression. You can overcome depression due to marriage pressure by following the guidelines. Read further, to understand how to overcome depression without medicines.
Yes, you need not add unnecessary chemicals in your body. Depression is just a temporary condition. I know that you are feeling sad all the time, cannot concentrate on work and feel helpless when faced with lots of questions.
You may be tired of giving explanations to family, friends, relatives about not wanting to get married. This exercise is no doubt exhausting. You may be feeling irritation and anger too!
So here are your 3 ways to cope up with this situation.
Way #1 - Aligning your mind
When any pressure comes to mind, it will disturb the flow of your thoughts. Hence, you feel lot of confusion in life. Especially when it comes to marriage pressure, it becomes overwhelming for the mind to handle it.
In such a situation until you do not align your mind it will be difficult for you to cope up with this pressure. Therefore, the first thing you have to do is aligning your mind. When there is lot of pressure, mind enters into overthinking zone.
Every kind of negative thought come to the mind. When these thoughts are entertained for 4 to 5 weeks you will be hit with mild depression. The problem here is that no one treats mild depression and therefore they entire into moderate depression. Within the next 4 to 5 weeks they will show all the symptoms of severe depression.
So, my friend right now what you are going through is mostly mild depression. I want you to just check your depression status. Take this free online depression test and find out whether you are in depression or not.
If your result shows you are in depression, first of all do not panic. Be relax! I am here with you. I will help you to come out of depression. I have helped 1000s of people since the past 25 years to overcome depression.
Now that you know you are in depression you need to take a firm decision that you will overcome depression no matter what. See my friend, until you do not make such a firm decision, it will be very difficult for you to come out of depression.
And with a depressed mind you will not be able to release your marriage pressure. Therefore, regain your confidence and take this decision that you will cure depression.
I will help you with all the necessary details that you will require to overcome depression and that too without medicines. So in depression the mind is misaligned due to negative thoughts and overthinking.
To align your mind you have to induce positive thoughts in your mind. Because only positive thoughts have the power to transform negative thoughts. Like in Mahabharat, 5 Pandavas are like positive thoughts and 100 Kauravas are like negative thoughts.
Always remember, negative thoughts come in bundles of 100s and positive thoughts come one by one. Therefore, you have to carefully nourish your positive thoughts during the whole day.
When negative thoughts will enter into your subconscious mind then it will be very difficult for you to overcome it. Hence, positive thoughts has to be induced in your subconscious mind. To do this you can use positive affirmations tool.
In ancient times people had invented this tool in the name of mantras. Today in modern language we call it affirmations. Mann means mind and antar mean inside. That which you repeat inside your mind is mantra.
Ancient people were scientifically oriented hence they had devised so many simple yet profound tools to help humanity. Mental health has to be taken care if one has to live a wellbeing life.
I have done thorough research and have tested with 1000s of people the impact of positive affirmations.
When I was conducting R&D of self help depression treatment webapp with my team, I discovered that 95% felt more clarity listening to double induction positive affirmations.
Therefore, align your mind with positive affirmations. Now you have to practice this at least for 45 days and not just few days or weeks.
See you have to understand that if you have been hit with mild depression it means these negative thoughts are going on inside you since 3 to 6 months. Now, if you are expecting to get rid of them within a week or two, it sounds little skeptical and impractical.
So let's be practical my friend. When you are entertaining negative thoughts for several months, to transform them into positive thoughts you will have to train your mind for several months. Hence, I suggested 45 days that is one and half months of training.
If you are in depression for more than a year then I would suggest you to continue it for at least 120-180 days.
Now let us find out another way to cope up with your marriage pressure and overcome depression.
Way #2 - Handling your emotions
Now read more carefully. In our life emotions play a major role. If you do not learn how to handle your emotions, then it will be difficult for you to live happily. For a healthy and happy life, the fundamental thing that you will need is balancing your emotions.
In marriage pressure, emotions get haywire. Negative emotions are clouding the mind all the time during the day. Emotions like irritation, anger, fear and insecurities pop up very fast. When you see your parents face, such emotions come instantly because at the back of your mind there is this marriage pressure.
I completely understand your feeling. I am with you and will help you to overcome your depression soon. Be relax and keep reading.
You need to understand that whenever any emotion comes to you, it creates a chemical in your body. For example, if you have fear emotion then it creates fear chemical in the body. This chemical then spreads in your body at around 700 miles per second.
Now you don't even have time to think how to stop this chemical because it just spreads automatically and instantly. But you can change this negative chemical. See, your brain has created this chemical. It means your brain can also create positive chemical.
When you smile and laugh, then your brain creates positive chemicals such as dopamine, serotonin etc. We will not go into such jargons. I am trying to help you with simple methods to understand. Too many jargons also create confusion in the mind.
The simple idea is that creating a positive chemical is possible. Your mood goes down, we call it mood swings. What is that? It is a negative chemical created by negative emotions.
Now in mood swings you have various negative emotions like fear, anger, irritation etc. so different negative chemicals are created. Hence, you swing from one chemical to another chemical.
So handling your emotions is very essential during this depression attack. I am going to give you the most authentic, scientifically proven and evidence based tool that will help you to balance your emotions.
Do you want to know what is this tool? Yes! My friend it is called music therapy. There is a difference between entertainment music and therapeutic music. Music therapy was used in ancient times to heal all kinds of diseases.
However, now only few people know this as it has been forgotten long back. There are masters who know how to set specific frequency which creates positive impact in brain. This frequency radiates positive vibration which helps the brain create positive chemicals speedily.
Therefore, whenever you listen to any soothing music you feel calm and whenever you listen to some loud music you get excited or irritated. Now, therapeutic music is not for all let us be clear on this aspect.
Like every disease has specific medicine, in the same way for every disease there is a specific therapeutic music. For depression there is specific music therapy which you have to use.
Do not rely on youtube or other free resources on the internet for this because it is about your mental health and emotions. Few universities across the world have created graduation course on music therapy. Hence, there are couple of authentic music therapist across the world.
Even if it takes some amount to pay for it then do not hesitate at all. Your health is more important than money. You can earn money but earning health will be way difficult. If you are mentally, emotionally and physically healthy, you can easily earn money.
But if your mental health and emotions are disturbed, you cannot focus on work or anything. Your productive goes down. Your physical health will be down. You won't be able to do anything in that phase.
Hence, most people when they are in depression, it becomes very difficult for them to concentrate on work. So my friend, do not worry, I will give you all the necessary resources which are highly affordable and cost effective.
I know financial pressures are also there when it comes to marriage pressure. So rest assured that I am here to help you in this depression situation.
Let us now discover the third way to overcome depression due to marriage pressure.
Way #3 - Communicating with parents
This way sounds little tough but I assure you that it will help you a lot. At least it will give you more relief. It will also give your parents some thought clarity about you and your life purpose.
Your parents are also going through the same pressure but at this point you will not be able to understand their pressure. They take pressure from society. For them society is more important in terms of their respect and reputation of family.
Parents are highly influenced by social pressure. It is very difficult to break this pressure. However, it is not impossible. There is a huge communication gap which I have observed in my 25 years of experience handling parents and children counselling.
Parents have their expectations from children. When these expectations are not met they get disturbed. Same way children have expectations from their parents and when parents do not fulfil these expectations children select any one option from the following:
revolt against parents
suppress and become meek
take extreme steps to quit life
None of the above options will help to reduce depression for sure. Coming out of depression due to marriage pressure needs a different approach altogether. That's why communicating with parents becomes important.
Parents cannot understand many things until you do not help them understand. They have grown up in a very different environment. Their belief systems, habits, thinking patterns and experiences are very different from yours.
They also have fears, anxiety, stress and in most cases they also do not know how to cope up with that. Hence, they use the old method - that is entering into anger zone.
You are also in fear and they are also in fear. Both enter into anger zone. This cannot bring any solution. The only way to come out of this pressure is to communicate. Yes, they may not listen to you. But it does not mean you stop communicating.
You have to find new ways of communication. You have to express yourself. You have to tell them about your life purpose, about how you want to live life. See, they have lived life in their way. They see that this is the only way to live. They have no experience about the life you want to live.
Hence, they wont understand in one go. You have to not just communicate but show them by living it. You have to also change your living patterns and thinking patterns. Your parents are treating you in a casual way because you have been so casual.
You have to drop your casual behaviour. You have to take responsibility of your life. Till now your parents were taking it in terms of your schooling, education, clothing, food, shelter and other needs.
But now you have to begin to take responsibility of your life. Think what you can contribute at home? Contribution is not only in terms of money but in terms of work and other support systems.
Let me caution you here, while you are in depression this kind of communication wont help anyone. Therefore, you must begin with way #1 and way #2. When your mind and emotions are balanced, it is easy for you to communicate.
45 days self help depression treatment
Self help is the best help. Depression due to marriage pressure can be handled with self treatment for depression. I am going to provide you all guidelines for this. Hence, read carefully. If you do not understand anything then I suggest you to re-read. Or else you can always ask your question in the comment section and I will respond to you.
Self help Depression treatment requires 3 things.
Will power - Until you are not willing to come out of depression, no one can help you. You may have a wish to overcome depression. But that wishing will not help. You have to take a firm decision that you will come out of depression. You have to stick to your decision and take all the necessary steps to cure depression.
Treatment basics - You will have to learn how to do self treatment for depression. Once you understand all the basics of treatment for depression it will be easy for you to follow the treatment process.
Tools - Before you begin your depression treatment you have to access all the necessary tools for treatment. Above I have mentioned about music therapy tool and positive affirmations tool.
Looking at all my previous patients issues, economical conditions and social pressure I thought of developing a cost effective and workable solution for all those who have entered into depression due to marriage pressure.
It took almost 2 and half years to build this solution. I have tested this with most of my patients and also my team has gone to various hospitals to test with patients.
Hence, whatever I am going to share now is evidence based and it works if you are willing to overcome depression. Few patients I knew were not able to come out of depression. Because they were not willing to come out. They also wanted a shortcut.
But my friend, depression is a mental health condition hence no shortcut will help you. Therefore, with my team I have developed a self help depression treatment webapp with 25 years of my experience treating various patients.
You will overcome the pressure by releasing it in activities and therapies suggested in our self help depression treatment webapp. This webapp can be accessed on your mobile.
It is highly user friendly and will help you to overcome depression without medicine. The webapp has guided steps on how to overcome depression. It comes in 3 languages English, Hindi and Gujarati.
This depression treatment is meant to give you clarity and courage. You will be able to face people and live the life of your dreams. Thousands of people have used the webapp and have overcome depression in a few weeks. After using it they found a new strength to pursue their goals in life.
Do not delay your recovery from depression due to marriage pressure. Your life is in your hands. Take control of your life by empowering yourself by using the solution for depression without medicine.
If you are unemployed then you can apply for further 50% discount sponsorship to access the 45 days self help depression treatment.
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I pray for your well-being.