Dear Dr Jani,
I am a lady of 33 years and a mother to a 2 years 10 month old boy. I am a reserved person by nature due to lot of turmoil in my life. Though I always tried to move on accepting everything but deep in my heart I feel too depressed and sad most of the time. After my son was born in 2020 I took the complete responsibility of him and now he started going to playgroup school😍. I never liked taking help from anyone in my daily life or in bringing up my child. That was my wish always. I am settled in Karnataka with my husband and I cannot take my parents help to bring up my child as they are settled in west Bengal and have responsibilities towards my sister and grandmother. So Last few months back i had to resign from my job and become a full time mother and homemaker.I had worked for the last 7 years and now suddenly I m into a different role. I still yarn to get back to work and have a life like before. As I left my job I hv lost respect in the eyes of many people . I feel really depressed . Will I be able to join back to work is a questionable truth. It kills me to be dependent on my husband but at the same time my son needs me too. I am unable to manage myself . I feel I hv lost myself . I feel low for not being able to support myself and my family Like how I did before.Hardly I get time for myself now as I m busy with home and son but deep down in my heart I feel I m waiting for some good change to happen which will make me happy and independent. Kindly guide me.
Regards
Piyalee
Thank you Dr Jani for your kind and encouraging words. I will definitely follow the advices given by you.
Dear Piyalee,
I understand your issue completely. You seem to be a very loving and sensitive person. Your caring nature is reflected in your message. You are self dependent and strong. Do not worry. You will definitely overcome this phase of sadness. You are strong within but at present you are not aware of your inner strength. You have made the correct choice. A child needs his mother more than anyone in the world. So, do not have any regrets. Enjoy the precious time you have with him. Take joy in whatever you are doing at home. Make friends. Meet mothers of the children who are in the play group with your son. It will be nice to share each others inerests.
Also, The child is not only yours. Your husband is the father and he must be happy that you left the job to take care of the child. As i said this is a phase. In a few years you will be free and would be able to work again. Try if it is possible to work in your spare time from home for a few hours. you have the 45 days depression treatment. Practice all the steps daily. keep in touch with me. Remember, right now your priority is your child. You will be nurturing and guiding your child which will help him to become a good human being. Your presence is very valuable in his life at present. So, stop all negative thoughts. Remain busy with activities.
You can book a counselling session with me to discuss your issues.
I assure you that you will feel better after following the 45 days treatment.
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My team and I pray for your well being.